Wednesday, September 19, 2007

The New York Times Wedding Announcements

Otherwise known as the "Women's sport pages" are one of my favorite things to read. Yes, I am single but I love how they write the stories up. These days it's easy to be cynical, to believe in the worst of people and that no one cares about romance. Sometimes I do think these things. Then I look at my family, my friends and read the NYTs wedding annoncements and know that is not true.

For some reason this annoucement choked me up. Maybe it's the way the reporter described their courtship and engagement.

Maybe it's because I grew up in that area and this church reminded me of the congregation in our church. Or maybe it's because on their first date Andy asked Kay if she wanted to get married and she said they should wait. He said he would ask again in a month and she said try a year.

In a country where the divorce rate is over 50 percent to believe in relationships lasting longer than the LORD OF THE RINGS Trilogy (hello, didn't the last one have four endings?) is hard. It does happen. My dad said he knew the minute he met my mom that was it. She was visiting his dad (they both were on the island to see their families), he walked into the house and saw her. They celebrated their 44th wedding anniversary this summer.

I haven't yet experienced this "thunderclap thing" but I know I will.


Jen said...

That was an amazing Times announcement. And you know what? I'm kind of an average Jane married to an average Joe, but the night I first went out with my DH, I knew. He just had every single quality on my "list." And 19 years later, I have no regrets (other than the usual aggravations that come from sharing life with another person who might actually have different opinions or needs from your own, lol).

It'll happen when it happens.

Anonymous said...

Women's Sports Page alright!! It's the first section I read on Sunday mornings.
Good to see that you're enjoying Toronto. I was there for the first time this summer and loved it.
Have fun.

PJ said...

It reads like an old-fashioned courtship, which the most romantic kind.

Anonymous said...

tracey k in ohio: that was a sweet announcement - i love that kinda stuff! My youngest brother experienced the "thunderclap" with his wife of 2 years now - she's a doctor from Greneda & when they met thru friends, they didn't care for each other. They ended up crossing paths again, only to hear the thunderclap, which lead to the most beautiful wedding I have ever seen in my life. You could feel the love everywhere. Her wondferful family came down from Ontario & up from Greneda & it was just a love-fest (LOL!) They are truly the best of friends and so in love; just being in their presence brings tears to my eyes.

If you want it, Ragazza, you will have it!

Anonymous said...

That is so beautiful. l love listening to or reading love stories. Particularly because l think its too easy to become cynical. My parents celebrated their 43rd Annivesary last year before my father passed away. l think it is wonderful to hear of people being married for so long especially with the stats out there in this day and age.
You certainly will have your own story too.

Shelley - At Home in Rome said...

I have no doubt you will have your story! All I can say is that it will happen when you least expect it and when you definitely aren't looking.

My mom had told me "you'll just know" and it turned out that way for me. The first time I went out to dinner with my husband Ale (we've been together for nearly 7 years now) I didn't think "future husband" but definitely felt that we had always known each other. When it's right you'll feel it and it is effortless!

I didn't know about the women's sport page. :-) Cute!

nyc/caribbean ragazza said...

jen - see yours is another story....19 years? that is amazing.

aby - I usually say the style section for last but sometimes I can't help myself.

pj - yes it does

tracey k - same with my younger brother...he just knew. They got married and now have two adorable little boys.

confessions - 43 years...that is very cool. Despite my sometimes snarky comments, I still believe in love and romance.

shelley - I truly believe that, which could be one reason I am not feeling the internet dating thing. I many people love it but I don't know. I work really hard and the last thing I want to do is spend more time on the internet working hard to find a date.

Kataroma said...

I think that when you meet the right person it's just "easy" - basically, no huge drama, no big doubts, no huge arguments (little arguments maybe but nothing fundamental to the solidity of the relationship). And you have that feeling of compatibility and contentment as well as a spark, of course.

When I met OH on vacation here in Rome, I kind of just "knew" - so, after a few months back in NY I quit my job and moved here. Probably completely nuts - but here I am 3 years later.

We've had our share of drama but that came from outside the relationship not from within (ie me not being able to find a decent job etc.)

I always used to go to weddings with a feeling of dread - "how can those 2 commit to spend the rest of their lives together?" But now I understand it. The idea of spending the rest of my life with OH sounds like a lot of fun. :)

nyc/caribbean ragazza said...

kataroma - your last paragraph cracked me up and is very sweet.

sognatrice said...

Aw, I'm a sucker for romance too, although I don't read the NY Times wedding announcements. Although perhaps I should...sounds like a great place to find writing prompts (I can be practical *and* romantic, right?) ;)

nyc/caribbean ragazza said...

sognatrice - yes you can. There is usually one wedding annoucement that goes into more detail about how the couple met and their wedding. I have read some incredible stories over the years.

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